This is the same way many coaches have to look at recruits as well, and not just for how they feel about them but also how the rest of the team will feel as well. Some coaches put more of an emphasis on this type of personality match and team chemistry, while others don’t as much, so just keep that in mind as you may have some coaches who decide it’s not a good fit for you but may feel differently about someone else.
Coaches have BOSSES and SALARIES that they must answer to with every decision they make. Sometimes they have to follow administration orders to maintain a certain roster number, or diversity factor, or academic standards. Sometimes they have alumni demands or requests that they need to fulfill. Golf is not a sport that generates a profit in college so fundraising, endowments, and donations are a HUGE part of what keeps the program thriving so in some cases a coach needs to make a decision based on factors that aren’t always in their total control nor made public.
In some cases, a coach may feel pressured with their contract renewal or bonuses to produce results and they may have to choose the player with the better scores over the player who “fits” their mold better. Some administrations have emphasized the importance of academics and school experience over the golf demands (even at the DI level) so a coach may have to adapt to that setting and select players who fit that particular “mold” and may not be the better player of two recruits they are considering. There is quite a bit that goes on behind the scenes, which sometimes may seem unfair, but is just part of the process and just part of life in general. Everything is not always as it seems and decisions are not always made based on what may seem obvious. You can only control what you are doing and if you are presenting the type of athlete, student, and golfer that they are going to be spending 4 years coaching.
Recruits are MATURING and still figuring out what they want and how they are going to handle the transition into college golf. Coaches who have been in their positions for years have seen their share of what happens when the recruits actually get to college. They know that recruits are going to say A LOT during the process that may not always end up being the case a year or two later. They are going to talk about working hard, getting better, not being drama, not being a party girl, and whatever it takes to get the opportunity to play for that program. And many recruits will be telling the truth and stick to what they said they are going to. Others may have the right intentions but their goals just change over time. Others may just be saying what they think the coach or their parents want to hear at that time. Parents may be saying what they think is the case for their daughter but may not really even know if that is the truth or not themselves. It is the job of the coach to figure this out through the process and sometimes they may not always tell you their reason why but they just don’t see you being the right fit once you get there.