As I am sure everyone was aware, this past week was all about LOVE! And while Valentine’s Day is more about showing your love to others, I wanted to take the chance to remind you about the importance of loving yourself but also possessing the willingness to become a better version of who you are.
There is no doubt that you have to love who you are, some days may be harder than others to do this, but you must find the power to still love who you are at the end of the day. With that being said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be a better version of who YOU are and what you want with your life. It should actually be a priority!!
Maturity and discipline are two things I have always struggled with in my life, not that there is anything wrong with being a big kid at heart, but there is a point where a lack of these traits can cause delayed success and development. Traveling on tour by myself for the most part of my 20s definitely taught me a certain type of maturity, but not really one that carried over into my real life.
Every transition of my life from high school to college to professional golf, I really struggled with getting comfortable and being confident in myself enough to succeed on the golf course and in my personal life. There were points where I would think “I am who I am” and there wasn’t much I could do about it. But boy was I wrong! It took me a long time to realize that there are certainly things about myself that are lovable and have led to the success that I did have both on and off the golf course but there were some things that I knew needed major improvement if I was going to ever really be successful in life. Unfortunately, this realization came after my professional golf career had ended but it was certainly not too late for the next phase of my life. If I had continued to use the excuse “I am who I am” then I can’t even imagine where I would be at this point in my life.
It has definitely only happened with the help of others, both in my business and in my personal life, and for that, I will always be grateful. However, you can have the best of the best around you but if you aren’t willing to be a better version of yourself then it doesn’t matter what they can do for you.
Even as young girls playing junior golf, you have to remember that you are working towards becoming the best you that you can be. I can tell you from personal experience that the older you get the harder it is to change your habits and tendencies. College coaches are looking for players who are confident in who they are when they show up as freshmen but they also know they have a lot left to still learn and develop through their time as collegiate golfers.
Don’t beat yourself up about the things that may need improvement or aren’t ideal in your eyes, instead create a plan for how you want to improve those areas and get to work. You can still love every bit of who you are but also love the process of becoming an ever better version of who you are at the same time.
Every day on the wall at the gym I see the #alwaysimproving reminder and I try to ask myself if I am in fact doing that. I like to think that these days I am. I try not to wonder “what if” too much anymore but instead I try to think “what’s next?”